I just had a fantastic thought in my mind, and it goes as follows
“ I like the person I am…. after I masturbate.”
This thought will resonate with many of you as you might feel much more composed, calm, relaxed, and free after you masturbate. Before performing it, we have a fiery urge to release our hormones, and I would say we are in the “animal” state of mind.
Is it good or bad?
I often have a debate over whether masturbation is good or bad. I have seen TED talks where it is said that masturbation does help us look physically better. And it does not affect the body until you perform it within the limit for the day.
But let’s talk about the time before we masturbate. How horny do we feel before going to the bathroom to whack off? I would take at least 15 to 30 minutes. When we are horny and don’t feel like doing anything other than masturbating and letting it all out. Often, people who masturbate use online pornography as a mode to stimulate them. This also does take off your time. So, a person who masturbates 3 days a week will have taken at least 30 minutes allocated for all those three days to masturbate. Though listening is nothing against masturbation, you can find a lot of stuff on the internet showing how bad it is to watch porn.
Once we are done with letting it all out. Our mind flips, and it feels like we are a different person. The person whom we might have been thinking about sexually before now becomes an ordinary person to us again. We start to get in our senses. And, many times, we regret how we wasted a whole 30 minutes, and nothing came out of it.
In my case…
I do masturbate, I watch porn, and I also feel sexual for some people.
But, the thought I mentioned at the start is the truth about what I think. I want to quit masturbation. But I can replace it with more love for my loved ones (family). And maybe find someone to whom I can channel my passion. This is what I want. Because not only do I waste 30 minutes every day (Yes. For me, it is). But also, many times, it breaks my flow of work. It often makes me feel sexual about the person I should not. It makes me feel miserable after that 30 minutes, and I am in my sane self.
After I masturbate:
- I talk to people differently
- I feel different
- I behave differently
- I have different priorities
These points are enough for me to think this needs to end as soon as possible. But, as of now, masturbation is a significant part of my love addiction. Masturbation is the pain reliever for love addiction. And that way, I am surviving right now. Though I want to remove masturbation from life.
Ways to cope with masturbation
I would like to present two ways you can live peacefully with masturbation.
- Learn to live with it: Incorporate it into your routine, accept it, and carry on with your life. But you should not have any regrets about it. It will make your life much easier, and you will be better off not regretting it. Taking an even bigger load off your shoulder.
- Understand why you masturbate, find its cues, and slowly try removing it from your life by working on all the things that are the reason for it. Remove the cues for masturbation from the place and look inside deeper to know the real reason for masturbation. Finally, change yourself to change your lifestyle.
It depends on what you choose. In my opinion, both are equally good solutions. Masturbation is expected; we can masturbate. But, with that, we also need to keep our feelings in check and not let them get the better of us.
That was all for this article. See you at the next one.
Bye Bye ……
